Free tele-talk this weekend:Newborn KnowHow Ends Infant Crying

Join me and invite your hopeful, pregnant & new parent friends to learn how to live happily with a newborn!

When parents hear their baby cry, they can become desperate. Enter the new Snoo  https://www.happiestbaby.com/  – for a mere $1200. And…..

Major parenting info sites still re-circulate old myths: “Babies cry a lot – that’s how they communicate!” Really??

http://www.parents.com/baby/care/newborn/10-things-to-know-about-newborns/?slideId=35615 

Thankfully, some do acknowledge babies’ mental health matters & depends on how parents relate to them and promote the development of more skillful parenting

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-melmed/babies-mental-health-matters_b_7213290.html

Learn Newborn KnowHow skills!! 

Please join me Oct 22, 2016 – this Sat morning 9 AM or Oct 23,  this Sun evening 9 PM – FREE 20 min talk NY Time

Call In Number 1-641-715-3610  Access Code 324236#

You will learn: 

6 myths folks still believe about babies and

3 life-changing guidelines, the core basics of Newborn KnowHow

Further dates through April 2017 beneath my bio http://barbarasclub.com/telesummitworkshops/#baby  

Private Sessions Available – your home in person NYC area or via Skype or My home in the Rockaways!

Text for info 646 708 5427.

Creator, Newborn KnowHow

646.708.5427

https://twitter.com/NewbornsKnow

https://brainkisses.wordpress.com

Little Newborn KnowHow Talks – Free!

FOR THE PREGNANT, THE HOPEFUL & THE NEW PARENT!!  PLEASE FORWARD GLOBALLY!!!

CRY NO MORE! Newborn KnowHow’s Secrets End Infant Crying!! Yes, they really do!

NEWBORNS PREFER PEACE!!   Yes, they really do!

New babies have an unfair reputation for long bouts of inconsolable crying.

When we learn how to meet their needs with skill & respect,

they remain calm.

In a brief 20 minute taste of Newborn KnowHow, I’ll

  • Expose 6 false myths that persist
  • Uncover new babies’ basic unrecognized need
  • Share their universal preference  – to be On, Up & About!
  • Hear about ways to hold & handle baby so you both enjoy peace & calm together!

Join me! via free conference call!

1-641-715-3610 Access: 324236#

Sunday Oct 9, 9 PM NY Time TONIGHT!!  ALL TIMES NY TIME

Saturday Morning Oct 22  9 AM

Sunday Evening Oct 23     9 PM

Sunday Morning Nov 13 10 AM

Sunday Evening Nov 27 9 PM

MORE DATES/TIMES through April 2017

http://barbarasclub.com/telesummitworkshops/#baby

Ina Bransome, IBCLC, Board Certified Lactation Consultant

Creator, Newborn KnowHow

inazbeing@gmail.com

Coaching Parents in Newborn KnowHow

https://twitter.com/NewbornsKnow

https://brainkisses.wordpress.com

Newborn KnowHow About to be Born

Excited to be participating in Barbara Sher’s Write Speak Telesummit this weekend.

Cry No More: Secrets to End Infant Crying
Mini workshop on Newborn KnowHow
Speaker: Ina Bransome, IBCLC, Creator, Newborn KnowHow
New babies have a reputation for long bouts of inconsolable crying. Unfair & Unnecessary! When their needs are recognized & met, babies notice & purr with gratitude!
In this mini-workshop, we’ll
• Uncover a baby’s basic unrecognized need
• Learn their single most universal positional preference
• Apply this to holding and handling baby
Bring your curiosity, pen and paper and a baby, doll or stuffed animal!

Through in-person & Skype sessions, parents are gaining the skills & confidence to enjoy early infancy with their baby.

Coming in 2017 Newborn KnowHow app. This will be the world’s greatest gift for a new parent! Contact:

Ina Bransome IBCLC Mobile: 646-708-5427 Email: inazbeing@gmail.com

https://brainkisses.wordpress.com

Part 2: A fix for indies in NY’s primaries

 

Trying to exercise my right to vote is turning into a full time job.

A bit of background: As a registered Green, I cannot vote for Bernie because NY – like 28 other states – has a closed primary system meaning only voters registered for the party holding the primary may vote in that primary. https://ballotpedia.org/Closed_primary

So here’s what happened next in my continued campaign to be able to vote in the primary!

On March 9 I called my local Queens Board of Elections to see if they got the letter I sent March 4 requesting I be removed from the voter lists as the 1st step in the 2 step “fix” someone there had suggested to me then. The receptionist said no, no sign of your letter. And told me the official cut off date to switch party affiliation for the upcoming election was October 9, 2015. (not a typo)

Requesting a supervisor, I was transferred to Nina who confirmed my letter hadn’t come, asked if I’d mailed it to their new address, not what’s on the voter form (!) and yes I had.

I told her that when I called March 4 a staff member explained a 2 step process to enable me to vote in this year’s primary even though currently registered Green: Step 1: Cancel my current registration. Step 2: Register as a new voter. I was told this could be accomplished by March 25, the deadline for new voter registration to participate in this year’s election. Nina confirmed this was possible, but said it is not done. That’s not standard procedure.

I asked if coming in person could help make this happen and one hour later walked into the Queens Board of Elections. While waiting for Nina, I took a few voter reg forms from the counter. “Wait!” snapped the attendant nervously. “How many are you taking? I have to record that.” I settled on 6 not wanting to deplete Queens of their supply:)

Nina brought a colleague, Lynn, as witness or for support? In their presence I signed and handed Nina my letter containing the required name, birth date, address requesting I be cancelled from the voting rolls. She said the letter would enter the work pile and be scanned and processed, saying this could perhaps be done that day.

They strenuously assured me every voter has the right to remove himself from the voting rolls. I ask: “But do people actually want to do that?” “Yes! Many!” “Really?” I asked for numbers, percentages – she snorted a half laugh. No hard data forthcoming. This warrants a further look. People in droves going through the bureaucratic process to get deleted from the voting rolls. Intriguing!

They stressed once the cancellation is processed, my past voting history would be closed. “Erased?” I ask, knowing now nothing can be. “No, but this begins a brand new voting record not connected to your past.” It seems the right to remove oneself, the right not to participate, is more staunchly defended and more easily available than the right to vote.

They stayed with me as I filled out a new voter reg form, listing myself as a Democrat. She strongly urged me to leave it with her, I’m guessing to ward off a 2nd face-to-face visit. Nina earlier explained the actual processing of new registrations is handled by staff from the political parties who validate and process them at the central Board of Elections.

Towards the end of our meeting which took place standing just inside their waiting room, Nina handed me 2 pages of NY State Election Law. That threw me. I didn’t read it but asked loudly, repeatedly “Am I doing anything illegal here? Is this legal, what I’ve done? Are you sure I’m not doing anything wrong?” “You know I’m doing this to be able to vote in the April primary.” Both firmly asserted: “Not illegal, absolutely not!”

But Nina again said: “The woman who told you one could do this work around shouldn’t have. She is just a switchboard operator and should not have shared such information with the public.” Huh?? Parse that for me? This really warrants a deeper look.

“I get how this could add to your workload”, offering a bit of disingenuous empathy and eliciting a reflexive laugh of admission. All that scanning, then looking up the voter’s name, canceling them out of the system, having the parties pick up & process tons of new registrations…. God help us!

We agreed I’d check in early next week to confirm the status of the process. Readers, I’ll keep you posted! We cordially shook hands. They were always polite and helpful, if far from encouraging.

Now to see if it works!

There’s a chance my new voter registration will be put in a box and sealed until after November. Read a bit of election law below. In which case I won’t even be able to vote in the November general election!!

Looking up NY election law I find one of the paragraphs they handed me and a whole bunch more, clad heavily in legalese:

Change of Party Enrollment

The voter registration form should be used to change your party enrollment from one party to another or to enroll for the first time in a party. A change of enrollment received no later than 25 days before the general election shall be deposited in a sealed enrollment box and opened the first Tuesday following that general election and entered in the voter’s registration record.

For the full law (656 pp plus 20 pp index)

http://www.elections.ny.gov/NYSBOE/download/law/2015NYElectionLaw.pdf

Psst! A fix for us indies for NY’s primaries

The NY primary is April 19. NY State primaries are closed; they are for registered major party voters only.

Let’s say you wanted to switch party affiliations in order to vote for Sanders in the Democratic primary. I learned today that you would have had to make that change sometime in March 2015. That’s right, March of 2015!! 

This ludicrous fact was explained to me today in an unhurried call to the Queens Board of Elections. The experienced board of elections worker who preferred not to give her name, added in a lowered voice: “We don’t tell this to everyone but…….”

 She then shared with me a 2 step work around that should enable me to vote in this year’s primary though I’m currently registered with the Green Party. Here’s how:

There is a law guaranteeing a voter has the right to REMOVE ONESELF FROM THE POLLING LISTS, in effect, the right to cancel one’s registration.  This can only be done by mailing a signed letter including one’s name, address and date of birth to your board of elections requesting your name be removed from the polling lists. She advised calling to double check a couple days later.  Then one can register like a brand new voter choosing a different party affiliation that would permit one to vote in the primaries.

Voter reg forms can be downloaded here but need to be mailed in.

http://vote.nyc.ny.us/downloads/pdf/forms/boe/voterreg/voterregenglish.pdf

To look up your voting status:

http://voterlookup.elections.state.ny.us/

The trick is all this MUST happen by/before MARCH 25.

Do you not get the feeling that NY State law is carefully designed and tweaked every election cycle to DISCOURAGE IF NOT OUTRIGHT PREVENT MASS PARTICIPATION?

Again, the NY State primary this year takes place on Tues. APRIL 19, 2016. I’ve just mailed in my letter. Good luck to us!

The injustice of “just this”: women’s work

“Women’s work is never done” partly because when we see something, we do something! Something that needs just a bit of doing, that needs care, that can be at least started, or that just needs finishing…….our body compels us: Just do it! Do this one thing and then I’ll get to what I set out to do.

Examples are rife! I know you know what I mean. But just to show you:

I want to do some writing. But first: I’ll just do the dishes in the sink. Get that out of the way. No wait! Didn’t you promise yourself that you’d never do dishes without putting on your synergy spanish audio lessons? Yes, but let me just get this “out of the way” first, my inner prodder insists.  But hadn’t you decided to start the laundry “meanwhile”? Well, yes, but first let me just get this done? The habit of housework rules.

This, then that, then this. And there goes another morning full of promise and deliberate intentions…..but no remaining minutes.

When will we – yes, I am addressing women here- put our self-care and self-development first? Or at least somewhere near the top of the list?

I’ll answer that, but first……I just have to switch the clothes to the dryer 🙂

Babies are Humans, too!

Babies are Humans, too!

I want to help  new and expectant parents, people who may already be with a baby or may be considering making one, to see  babies as full human beings.

Interaction is a baby’s primary need & nurture!

A baby is the primary human. And the physical pleasure of socially interacting with others is their PRIMARY NURTURE. They are real people. They sense and they know. Their experience is real and really does matter.

Learning to sense your own inner aliveness may help you connect to your baby more deeply

There is a vast inner aliveness in each of us. We live mostly unaware of this – but when we are shown how to notice it, it’s like coming alive for the first time. Their are teachers, coaches and groups where one can learn to enter one’s vast interior.

Beginning to notice your inner aliveness

You know when someone says something that doesn’t sit right with you? Remember how that feels inside?  Even before thoughts (labels, judgements) run through your mind like: that was mean; that wasn’t nice. I don’t like you. I’ll get you back one day.

Before those thoughts form you can learn to notice a sense of something inside you drop, flip, sink, tighten? Have you felt that? Let’s see: it might be you shared something really serious with someone and they laughed at you for feeling or saying that! That doesn’t feel great. And you might sense a whole set of feelings start to move around inside you, one after the other.To learn more go to

Most of us live too busy to catch what’s happening inside, at this deep level of bodily experience. But we can learn to sit with it, to notice it. And when we do, very often: it can open up & speak to us, it can change, sometimes the feeling changes entirely. Sometimes surprisingly. Just taking the time to notice closely or share with someone who can listen well – can shift the feeling! And now I feel lighter! My inner world has changed and I’m not stuck carrying that not great experience I had earlier.

It’s better when you have a friend (or just someone) to listen and really hear you. And even better when there’s a circle of folk who are there to listen to each other’s feelings including these inner sensings. And sometimes it’s hard to describe and you have to use brand new strange or silly sounding words or made up terms: I have a strange feeling in my stomach and a picture popped into my head of a little mouse racing on a wheel going round and round forever. Poor little mouse. I sense how tired he’s getting. How did he get stuck on this wheel that even when it turns faster and faster he doesn’t ever get anywhere?

The body is a warehouse of inner sensings we carry around

I’ve lived a long time carrying a bunch of various feelings – and let’s call them sensings to distinguish them from emotions. They kind of get stuck in your body and you then have to carry them around. Until you find a restful moment with a willing person or circle and can explore, track and name them and give them some open attention. Then they become free to turn, change, develop, open up and tell you their story or disappear, grateful for your attention – all kinds of things can happen. And usually you feel a breath coming because: Oh my gosh, I’m so much lighter now!!

One teach who worked teaching kids to sense into their inner experiencing, used the idea of an elevator: the child steps into their own elevator, can go down, can push the buttons to stop at any floor they want, wherever they get a sense there might be stories or feelings that pull them or that they feel curious about and want to spend time with along the way.

Babies are born connected to their inner aliveness

Well, here’s the main part: this experiencing began in each of us a long long time ago. Because before we had language, we had awareness. We used touch, smell, all our senses and an ability to sense the intention of the people near us, and to sense how they are feeling, inside themselves, too.

We live in a living web of interactions and babies are born of and into that fabric and have all those abilities – except for our kind of language. They have a language that uses their body, face, hands, eyes, breath – even though they do not have the ability to reduce their experience into words. Words point to experience and are also a kind of experience and can sometimes deepen or sharpen experience, but mostly represent or point to experience.

That’s partly why babies can sense so completely and fully. They cannot reduce it, file it, pigeonhole it. They don’t know if it’s ever going to stop or if it’s ever going to happen again. They have it fully and only. Being with them, near them, holding them is all the comfort and reassurance they need. Especially if we can be steady for them.

Sum of it all:

BABIES ARE FULLY ALIVE HUMAN BEINGS. THEY ARE SENSORY GENIUSES. THEY ARE COMPETENT AT BIRTH TO EXPRESS THEIR NEEDS, AND TO INVITE AND ENJOY CONNECTION – THEIR MOST BASIC NEED. THEY SENSE THEIR OWN EXPERIENCE. THEY SENSE YOUR PRESENCE. THEY SENSE HOW YOU FEEL, HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF AND HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM. AND YOU ARE THEIR PRIMARY ENVIRONMENT!

Stay Tuned: More to come!

Stay tuned here because more on and from babies is coming:  a comic book, a workshop; a cartoon of babies speaking their minds; likely an app millenials, a webinar on how to soothe your baby taught by babies and video flashcards to teach new parents The Universal Preferences of Newborns!